Here is something else that seems difficult for the unafflicted to understand, Depression is NOT a choice, and (for many of us) it is NOT temporary. With a recurring depressive disorder of any kind, depression can come on at any time, with or without cause, and it can stay for long periods of time. Even as we try to stay positive, look at the silver lining or hope for the best. It is not a question of attitude. It ebbs and flows, but it is ALWAYS there. It is a part of who we are, and the worst part is that just like the thorns on a rose, my “condition,” can harm those I care for most, no matter how tenderly they hold me.